Nak mula balik...

Nak mula apanya ?

Ntah...rasa macam nak reboot myself and start the new me.

Yang lebih positif
Yang lebih berobjektif
Yang lebih berjiwa
Yang lebih halus
Yang lebih memberi
Yang lebih manis

Paling penting
Yang lebih membuat dari bercakap
dan tentu sekali bukan yang melebih-lebih

Resolusi 2015 kah ?

Tidak juga...

Resolusi saya tidak terikat pada masa. Resolusi 2011 baharu sahaja dicapai di saat 2014 hampir ke penghujung. Resolusi 2012 masih dalam status 'in progress'

Aku tidak berani beresolusi dengan masa hadapan lagi kerana aku hanya ingin meneruskan kehidupan secara yang terbaik, 1 hari demi 1 hari. Yang di hadapan tak terjangkau, tak mampu untuk aku fikirkan. Biarlah Allah sahaja yang mengatur.

Ya Allah izinkan aku menjadi seperti yang aku mohon, semuanya tak mungkin tercapai tanpa izinMu. Berikanlah aku ilham dalam membuat pilihan dari sekecil-kecil urusan hingga sebesar-besar keperluan, kehendak, keinginan. Jika itu bukan yang terbaik, lencongkanlah hati aku Ya Allah, sesatkanlah hati aku ke daerah yang terbaik buat aku. 

#approaching 2015

Tiada Tajuk Yang Sesuai

Lesson learnt

Many believe past relationships are a sign of failure or time they wasted with the wrong person. Yes, relationships leave us with feelings of sorrow, uncertainty, and guilt but there is much wisdom from these uncomfortable emotions.

Instead of trying to understand why it ended, the real question is WHAT AM I MEANT TO LEARN? I’ve spent much time looking to the past to find answers, only to find that it's better to focus on the lessons in order to move on gracefully to attract new relationships.

Here are seven beautiful lessons we can learn from past relationships:

1. People don't belong to you.

I used to believe that when I was committed to someone, that person belonged to me. Of course, now I understand that people are not possessions. This means you don't have a claim on the lifestyle choices they make, no matter how long you've been together. You don't get to control their behavior, even if it's obviously not ideal for the relationship. The best you can do is to communicate and create boundaries from a space of trust, honoring the other and self-love.

2. We all need “me time.”

Being in love with someone doesn’t mean you have to spend every waking hour with the person, merge your identity into theirs, and forget about your own dreams. Finding love means making the most of the moments you have together while also honoring the time you spend apart doing the things that make you feel alive. It’s painful to lose yourself in the process of loving another. (Trust me, I know!)

3. You complete yourself. Period.

Jerry McGuire screwed up our sense of relationships with the “you complete me” junk. If we're looking for validation and love from a source outside ourselves, we're setting ourselves up for co-dependency issues.

In the past, I needed a man to validate me; my self-worth deteriorated when I wasn’t in a relationship. What I didn't realize was that I was giving away my power and putting my happiness at the mercy of another person.

If you aren’t happy with yourself, you won’t find that happiness in a relationship either. You have to cultivate self-love and happiness in your life first before you can share it with another.

4. You can only change yourself, so don’t fool yourself into believing you will transform your partner.

Sure, we can motivate others by our example, but expecting someone to lose ten pounds or change the way she deals with anger is not honoring who the other person is.

It's also not a very effective strategy to get what you want. People grow when they feel an internal desire to make a shift. Being pressured to change may lead to temporary improvements, but it's almost certain to give rise to feelings of resentment.

If you don’t like it when your boyfriend has a short temper, change the way you react. Respond from a space of calm. When you shift your energy, the other person will automatically feel your new energy. People are motivated to behave differently by the example you lead, not the words you speak.

And if you're feeling desperate for someone to change, ask yourself why you're with someone who needs so much fixing?

5. The lust period doesn’t last forever.

Understanding the difference between lust and love allows us to be prepared with the real deal arrives. Butterflies in the stomach, dressing to impress, texting and talking for hours a night — these are all signs of lust. These usually fade and love will take place.

Love is about accepting an imperfect being and loving that person for their flaws. It’s about being authentic and sharing openly without fear of being judged. When you can share the good, the bad, and the ugly with someone, love grows.

6. Some relationships are simply here to teach us how to gracefully let go.

Letting go gracefully, with complete forgiveness and love for the other person requires understanding and self-forgiveness. Some relationships are brought to us not as the happily ever after, but to teach us how to honorably let go. Being able to let go of the past allows us to be fully present emotionally, spiritually, and physically in future relationships.

7. Relationships are a direct reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves.

In relationships, when we find ourselves reactive, it usually means that we haven’t healed our fears and anxieties. When we recognize our responsibility in the situation, we can then make an empowered choice to shift to more loving perceptions. The more we act from our higher self, the more self-love we cultivate, which in turn helps us cultivate loving relationships.

Relationships can help us grow and evolve. Sometimes the purpose is to test us or to teach us. Some will use you and others will bring the best out in you. Sometimes the relationship will no longer serve your highest good and your paths will naturally separate so you can both continue growing.

Source: theNet

Speeding No More

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Aku ngaku dulu2 selalu je nak laju2 kalau tang bacaan dalam solat...swishswishswish haaaa camtu la lebih kurang bunyi dia time tgh speed. *sila imagine* *familiar??*

Alhamdulillah. Allah ketuk jiwa aku sikit melalui kawan-kawan and opismet yang pernah pergi umrah. Tumpang sekaki dengar cerita-cerita diorang kat sana. Indah. Kelakar. Nervous. Semua ada. Tapi yang paling terkesan and paling lekat dalam kepala aku = lepas solat jemaah either kat Nabawi or Haram, takde doa.

Why eh ? the 'why' yang buatkan aku belek balik buku, re-learned and got myself into understanding all the comprehensive zikr & doa in solat. That's why it's called 'PRAYER', duh !!

The two most important doa in my solat : ALFATIHAH and DOA ANTARA 2 SUJUD

In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful.  

All the praises and thanks be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds
The Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful.  
The Only Owner  of the Day of Judgement  
You (Alone) we worship, and You (Alone) we ask for help.  
Guide us to the straight path 
The path of those on whom You have bestowed Your Grace, 
Not (the pathway) of those who earned Your Anger, nor of those who went astray  

DOA ANTARA 2 SUJUD

Rabbighfirli - O Lord! forgive my sins

warhamni - bless me with mercy (rahmat)

wajburni -  rectify me / remove my weaknesses / hide my imperfections

warfa'ni - raise me in status

warzuqni - provide me sustenance/provision (rizq)

wahdini - guide me, bless me with hidayah

wa'afini - strengthen me, make me healthy

wa'fu'anni - pardon me

Comprehensive! 

So no more speeding. You are talking to Him. You're begging Him for His blessings, gifts etc. so please don't just swishswishswish and expect it to be granted. Even if He didn't grant your wish, He will send you something better. Trust Him. Just pray !!

Thank you Allah for sending the message to me via people around me. Pahala untuk kamu ye kawan2.. 

*NotaKakiKembang

Jangan asik duk mintak je, jangan lupa MEMBERI. Puji-pujian untukMU. 

Just STOP

Hoiii Tukang Campak !! Promise that this will be your last motivational-sappy-copy-internet-kinda-post. Blog properlylah dey...#MakePeaceWithMyself

1. Stop complaining about what’s missing. Instead, be grateful for what you already have.

2. Stop being a jerk to people you love. Instead, open up about what’s bothering you deep inside.

3. Stop comparing yourself to others, because you’ll never feel good enough. Instead, focus on your strengths and let them shine.

4. Stop pushing people away with your criticism. Instead, accept your imperfections and acknowledge theirs as well.

5. Stop living in your past. Instead, forgive yourself and those who caused you pain and move on.

6. Stop seeking people’s approval, because you’ll always feel that something’s missing. Instead, believe in yourself and focus on what makes you happy.

7. Stop blaming others for your unhappiness, because you’re the author of your life. Instead, put a plan together to create the life that you want.

8. Stop beating yourself up when you make mistakes. Instead, use them as an opportunity to grow.

9. Stop falling into your bad habits. Instead, create new ones that will help you achieve your goals.

10. Stop wasting your life on Facebook and on TV. Instead, find new passions that will nurture you.

11. Stop living other people’s dreams. Instead, find your own and feel alive forever.

12. Stop being in a rush. Instead, focus on every moment because you have all your life to complete your tasks.

13. Stop worrying about everything. Instead, focus on every moment so you don’t miss out on miracles.

14. Stop whining. Instead, focus on what you want and take action to get it.

15. Stop controlling others. Instead, appreciate who they are and what they are.

16. Stop thinking you’re the smartest. Instead, appreciate the best in others and work with them to create a more harmonious world.

17. Stop trying to impress other people. Instead, be yourself and let people love you for who you are.

18. Stop surrounding yourself with negative people, because they’ll only bring you down. Instead, be around like minded people who appreciate you and support your growth

19. Stop saying YES to everything. Instead, stand up for yourself and say NO lovingly, for everyone’s sake.

20. Stop competing for success. Instead, realize that the world has enough for everyone.

21. Stop being scared of taking your first step. Instead, gain your power back and trust the process of life. Everything happens for a “good” reason. 

Battlefield Part II

Do not fight a battle

Of which
You are designed to be the loser

Of which
You are ambushed to a corner

Of which
You are out of your bullets

Stop fighting a losing battle

Retreat and save your soul

You will need it, intact, to brave the next journey.

:: 10 Ramadhan 1435H ::

Battlefield

I'm in battlefield
Fighting
In a battle where I knew I've already lost before it ends

Fighting for whatever left of my dignity
Fighting for whatever left of my rights

In the end
Its a matter of time
...when the loser will finally be declared
...when the wounded will be left by the roadside
...when the dead will be dumped as merely corpse not a warrior

Watch me die so you can live happily ever after

In this battlefield, it seems like I must die
In order for me to live
Ironic

Allahuakbar, Allah Maha Besar
If it is not in this world, it is in the Hereafter.

For He is the Greatest Planner..

Some things are beyond planning.

And life doesn't always turn out as planned.

You don't plan for a broken heart.
You don't plan for an autistic child.
You don't plan for spinsterhood.
You don't plan for a lump in your breast.

You plan to be young forever.
You plan to climb the corporate ladder.
You plan to be rich and powerful.
You plan to be acclaimed and successful.
You plan to conquer the universe.
You plan to fall in love and be loved forever.

You don't plan to be sad.
You don't plan to be hurt.
You don't plan to be broke.
You don't plan to be betrayed.
You don't plan to be shattered.
You don't plan to be alone in this world.

You plan to be happy.

Sometimes if you work hard enough, you can get what you want. But MOST times, what you want and what you get are two different things.

We, mortals, plan. But so does Allah in the heavens.

Sometimes, it is difficult to understand Allah's plans especially when His plans are not in consonance with ours .

Often, when He sends us crisis, we turn to Him in anger. True, we cannot choose what Allah wishes us to carry, but we can carry it with courage knowing that He will never abandon us nor send something we cannot cope with .

Sometimes, Allah breaks our spirit to save our soul.

Sometimes, He breaks our heart to make us whole.

Sometimes, He allows pain so we can be stronger.

Sometimes, Allah sends us failure so we can be humble.

Sometimes, He allows illness so we can take better care of ourselves.

Sometimes, Allah takes everything away from us so we can learn the value of everything He gave us .

Make plans, but understand that we live by Allah's grace.